So you think that your the only one?

So you think that your the only one who has adopted an older child domestically? No you are not alone. Knowing that you've given an older child a chance at life. Even though many states label older children as “special needs” does not mean the child has physical or mental problems. It could be the child has formed a special bond with the foster parents, is a child who is biracial, or has siblings from which they cannot be separated. These children work hard to please their caregivers. They need patience, unconditional love, and supervision. Many states subsidize adoptive parents of foster children and supply medical coverage for the children. They come to us in many different ways and we pray daily for guidance and understanding. With Gods help we can do this.Do the research and ask questions about the older child’s background. Always ask the agency the child’s name, sex, age, reason for placement and number of placements. Ask to talk with the caregivers, foster parents, or group home where the child resided. As with other child adoptions, know the child’s medical history, developmental level and whether the child is in therapy sessions. The agency will be able to disclose, if any, known or suspected dangerous activities the child has been involved in like gang affiliations, fire setting, lies, sexually acting out, or stealing. It would be important to know if the child has any unusual habits, likes, or dislikes. Working with a reputable agency will make sure of the child’s legal status and any religious concerns pertaining to the child. This column was started for the sake of knowledge and the many new and old parents who have adopted domestically through the Department of Social Services. To give support and someone to talk to when you need advice.
May God bless you in all that you do
Jeanne